Monica Lewinsky was a 22-year-old
intern working at the White House when she met President Bill Clinton. She fell
for him, and the pair began an affair that lasted over a year and resulted in
Clinton's impeachment. During the affair, Lewinsky claims that he
"entertained" her in the Oval Office, in hallways within the White
House, and inside his private study. She "entertained" him while he
was on the telephone with a member of Congress.
The
whole time, Clinton was married to another woman, in addition to being the
leader of the free world. He risked his family and position to engage in the
affair. His behavior probably gave a young, romantic Lewinsky reason to believe
that the president returned her feelings and really cared about her. Until
their relationship was discovered, that is.
Lewinsky
made the mistake of telling her coworker Linda Tripp about the relationship.
Tripp proceeded to tape conversations with Lewinsky and turned the tapes over
to a government prosecutor who was already investigating Clinton about other
matters. The cat was out of the bag.
Clinton's
knee-jerk reaction to being found out was to deny everything. His exact words
during a televised speech were, "I did not have sexual relations with that
woman." Later, in an interview, Lewinsky shared how hurt she had been by
that statement. She was shocked that he would brush her aside by calling her
"that woman". Further, she was hurt that Clinton mischaracterized
their whole relationship. To hear him tell it, what they had was just physical.
Lewinsky saw a much deeper connection.
Despite
all the heartache, a 2011 story in the Daily
Mail revealed that Monica Lewinsky still loved Bill Clinton fifteen years
after the affair. According to her friends, she never married or had children
because she continued to be hung up on the former president. Meanwhile, Bill
Clinton finished two terms in the White House, went on to become a bestselling
author and popular speaker. He helped his wife become a U.S. Senator and run
for president, in addition to watching his daughter grow up and get married.
Does it seem that Clinton is still pining after Lewinsky? Not likely.
This
example demonstrates how difficult it can be for a woman to judge a man's
feelings based on what he says or even how he acts. But when push comes to
shove, she will see where she ranks in his list of priorities. He can recite
poetry and promises until he's blue in the face, and she might be able to
command his attention for an hour or two in bed, but when he has to choose
between her and his family or his job or his standing in the community, what do
you honestly think he'll do? Does he
stand by her, or does she become "that woman"? Here's a hint: If he's
married to someone else, the "other woman" probably isn't his first
priority. And it's time for her to quit pining and move on with her own life.
About the authors: Louise Helene and Kim Osborn Sullivan,
Ph.D. wrote I Saw Your Future and He's
Not It: A Psychic's Guide to True Love (Llewellyn Worldwide, 2013). Louise
Helene (www.LouiseHeleneThePsychic.com)
is a second-generation psychic advisor who specializes in love and relationship
issues. Kim Osborn Sullivan (www.KOsbornSullivan.com)
is Louise's niece and co-founder of NonfictionReads.com.
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